No Nonsense

In our American culture there’s an assumption, possibly proliferated by younger people, that with old age one’s mind begins to deteriorate and senility soon ensues.

Certainly, as you grow older the reflexes start to slow, the joints begin to swell, the bones become more brittle, the muscle density decreases, and the brain shrinks.

But, there is an alternative explanation for the brain change that occurs as we grow older.

I submit to you that the frame of mind that comes with old age is caused less by brain shrinkage and more as a result of a sharpened perception! Some may even call it wisdom!

Maybe brain shrinkage has some affect as it starts to filter out much of life’s distractions. Then, as a result you begin to gain a a better insight into the state of affairs of this world and a better sense of your own mortality relative to how things are going to end up.

And, you no longer want to dabble in inconsequential concerns and pointless complications. And, you may even find it all, or much of it….annoying!

Through the experience of years of living (and maybe some brain shrinkage!) us older folks have acquired the ability to focus on the true and important concerns of life and no longer want to waste time, energy or words on perfunctory matters.

So, I would argue that as people get older they develop clarity.

This new clarity of old age enables you to dispel the baloney and more effectively and efficiently set priorities and even sharpen decision-making.

With clarity you can easily shrug off fascinations with new moralities, redefined ethics, political correctness, social media crazes, and any other of the latest and greatest distractions that the information age and the Internet and TV is sending your way.

Because, like wise King Solomon said in the Bible and, hopefully, most of us have learned (or will learn) later in life from our own experience, “What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun” (Ecclesiastes 1:9).

The experience of years of living provides you with the superpower to filter out much of the nonsense of life. Consequently, I just don’t care to add any more drama to what’s left of my life or wallow in the drama of other people’s lives.

I’ve got a limited time on this earth. In fact, I can almost see the end and I need to make the most of the time I have left.

So, you may think me uninterested, boring, even experiencing cognitive decline. But, as a matter of fact, I’m just growing into a No-Nonsense kind of guy!

Don’t Let the Old Man In

The story goes that some years ago Toby Keith was playing golf at Clint Eastwood’s Carmel golf tournament when he learned that the actor’s 88th birthday was just a few days away.

Toby asked Clint how he planned to celebrate his birthday to which Eastwood replied that he would be spending his birthday shooting a new movie called The Mule.

Surprised that Eastwood was still producing movies at his age, Keith wondered how Eastwood remained so energetic. Eastwood responded, “I just get up every morning and go out. And I don’t let the old man in.”

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Don’t Teach a New Dog Old Tricks

Chloe, Tami’s little Pekingese passed away a few months ago. She had her for fifteen years and it was very sad to lose her.

Besides the emotional attachment of owning a dog, having a dog in your family really ties you down. It adds another complication to your comings and goings.

So, after we lost Chloe I declared absolutely no more dogs!

It’s like having another “little person” in the home to take care of!

And, I have a full life with plenty of little persons to take care of without a dog depending on me.

In spite of my remonstrations we now have a new little dog. He’s an Aussie Doodle.

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Outsourcing

How does “I can do it myself!” at three years old transmute into “Can you do it for me?” at thirteen?

At three I got reproached and pushed away for trying to help them perform a task. At thirteen I am implored to do it for them!

When they were little I thought I could surely cultivate this “do it myself” attitude into the formation of self-sufficient, self-actualized young adults.

But, now at thirteen and fourteen they’ve become helpless and dependent. And, they want me to do everything for them.

And, regretably, I do!

What has happened to them in that decade between three and thirteen?

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The Phonograph

Vinyl is making a comeback.

The first recorded sound was Thomas Edison’s voice, captured on phonograph in 1877 reciting part of the nursery rhyme song “Mary Had a Little Lamb.” Then, ten years later Emile Berliner created the first device that recorded and played back sound using a flat disc, which became the forerunner of the modern vinyl record.

Over the next six decades records and record players were improved and standardized and by the 1970s, record player technology had evolved to the point where it has changed little in the last 50 years.

During that time cassette and eight-track tapes came and went. Then CDs came along followed by MP3 players, which were replaced by cell phones that now control the audio and video media we now consume.

Now, vinyl is making a comeback and Tami got me one of those vintage-looking phonograph/record players and a couple of vinyl albums for Father’s Day this year. I had not paid much attention to the vinyl revival because I really enjoy the high-quality audio of digital music downloaded to my iPhone.

But, from the moment I removed that vintage phonograph (although it has CD, FM radio and Bluetooth features) from the box and set it up, I was back in touch with my younger self! Music was a big part of my family when I was growing up. As a young child I I listened to music from my dad’s old 78 rpm records and my older brother’s 45 rpm records.

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The Old Men’s Club

As I’ve grown older I’ve noticed that when I see gatherings of other old men I feel a certain sense of solidarity with them.

And, now I’m beginning to understand why. There’s an Old Men’s Club….

And I’m eligible for membership!

I’m not talking about some underground, subversive group contriving a conspiracy to take over the world. You know who they are and are familiar with their mission.

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Parenting From the End

What will your children remember about you when you’re gone?

While most parents may not spend much time thinking about that, I actually think about that a lot!

I probably think about that too much! Maybe I even obsess about it. Because sometimes it seems that I am growing older faster than they are growing up!

In my previous post, Lucky and Blessed, I expressed the blessing of raising children the second time around. This post is a follow-up and, perhaps, illustrates the dark side of being an older parent.

Most parents are young adults when they have children. They expect to live long enough to watch their children grow up, graduate, start a career, get married, and have families of their own. And, they certainly don’t recognize their mortality as much as an older adult does.

But, my second-time-around parenthood is being performed nearer the end of my life than the beginning or middle. You might say, I’m parenting from the end!

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Lucky and Blessed

As I get closer to the end of my working life (though retirement is still a few years away), I sometimes look back over my career and try to examine if I have been successful or not.

While I like to believe that during my career I have achieved many successes for my respective employers,  there have certainly been some setbacks along the way (I can’t hardly bring myself to label them as failures!).

I used to keep a plaque on the wall of my office that said “Never, Never, Never, Never Give Up!” When there have been setbacks/failures, I have often been able to turn them into successes not necessarily because of my great management or leadership skills but because I seem to possess a good amount of persistence.

In other words, what I lacked in leadership ability, I made up for in doggedness!

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Satisfaction

“I can’t get no satisfaction
Cause I try and I try and I try and I try”

–Mick Jagger & Keith Richards

When you think of being satisfied, you probably envision something like the feeling after eating a good meal, a fun or relaxing activity, listening to music you enjoy, the sound of ocean waves crashing on the beach or maybe even a accomplishing a goal.

You probably don’t associate a feeling of satisfaction with popping bubble-wrap bubbles, cutting paper with scissors, the sensation of magnetic attraction (or resistance),  or the clicking sound made by pressing the keys on a computer keyboard or clicking a mouse.

But the kids do! The sensations produced by these simple experiences and many others seem to fire off dopamine-releasing neurons in their kinesthetic brains.  So, they call it “satisfying.”

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The Ghosts of Christmas Presents

Parents love to give gifts to their kids at Christmas. Each Christmas season we spend a lot of time and money selecting gifts that will make our children happy. While there is a  lot of joy in all this parental gift-giving, there is an element of it that makes me quite frustrated.

While the pre-Christmas gift-buying can be stressful, it’s what happens after all the Christmas presents are opened that can be the most agitating to me.

You might recall in Charles Dickens’ classic Christmas story,  A Christmas Carol, The Ghost of Christmas Present appears to Ebeneezer Scrooge and shows him how other people, particularly Scrooge’s nephew and Scrooge’s exploited clerk Bob Cratchit, celebrate Christmas.  During its appearance the spirit noticeably ages and reveals to Scrooge that he will only exist on Earth for a very brief time, which is implied to be that single Christmas holiday.

Dicken’s Ghost of Christmas Present provides a befitting commentary of the exasperating problem I confront each Christmas season–Christmas presents that get broken often before Christmas Day is over!

Yes, the remains of these broken toys laying by the Christmas tree in pieces or in silence are the ghosts of Christmas presents.

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