On this blog I generally talk about the foibles of parenting committed by me. But, from time to time I address the plight of single parenting, having become a single parent myself.
In this post and this post I attempted to amusingly point out my new perspective on single parenting after being married for almost thirty years.
Yes, you have a whole different perspective on single parenting when you are one than when you know one (or several), when you’ve actually lived it instead of just observed it.
Married people tend to have sympathy for single parents because they know how tough a task parenting can be, even with a mom and dad in the home. But they can’t really understand some of the inner turmoil you face as a single parent.
Single parents have to address the same parenting issues as married parents, but from the disadvantage of having less resources than married parents enjoy (and I don’t mean financial disadvantages, though being a single-income family can certainly be a disadvantage). Single parents don’t have the emotional, psychological, and spiritual resources that a married couple can provide to one another and, thence, their children.
Comedienne Gilda Radner was one of the original cast members of the late night NBC comedy television show, Saturday Night Live. She created several recurring characters including one by the name of Roseanne Roseannadanna, who appeared in the “Weekend Update” news segments of the early seasons of Saturday Night Live.
Roseanne Roseannadanna would begin her news report and then digress into a lengthy anecdote with absolutely no relevance to the topic of her report. And, invariably, her digression would lead to a disgustingly graphic description about the personal hygiene of some celebrity.
Finally, the news anchor of “Weekend Update” would interrupt and ask what her comments had to do with her news report. Roseanne Roseannadanna would then answer with her trademark comeback, “Well, it just goes to show you, it’s always something–if it ain’t one thing, it’s another.”
In the last year of her life, Radner released a memoir of her experience with ovarian cancer, entitled It’s Always Something. Radner also recorded the book on audio, imitating Roseannadanna and other of her Saturday Night Live characters when describing those parts of her life.
Now, let me ask, have you ever had an “It’s Always Something” experience? I bet you have. Many times.
See below to find out what she’s holding on to…
We always seem to be late! We always seem to arrive late for appointments, for meetings, for work, for school, for church…
We seem to be late for just about everything we do!
You might think we’re always late because I’m not very organized. However, if you had occasion to observe our home, you would see that I keep our lives and our stuff fairly well organized.
I keep the toddlers clothes and toys all organized. I give them their baths and lay out their clothes for the next day the night before so we won’t be late.
And I even pick out what clothes I’m going to wear the next day on the night before!
You might think we’re always late because I oversleep. I can assure you that’s not the case. If I get six hours of sleep, that’s a long night’s sleep for me!
We were in the newly remodeled McDonald’s restaurant recently. The toddlers were playing in the indoor playground area. I was sitting at a table watching them.
In the new design of the McDonald’s there is a party room enclosed with glass walls located in the play area. A birthday party was taking place while we were there.
So, while the toddlers were climbing and playing in the McDonald’s playground area adjacent to the party room, I was sitting there watching as families were arriving for the birthday celebration.
While I watched, several young mommies and daddies came in with their children and placed birthday presents on the gift table. Soon the table was loaded with presents and there were several young couples talking and laughing with one another while their children played in the adjacent playground area.
In this post I list some of the challenges that I have encountered in recent months as a single parent who was formerly married for almost thirty years.
Like other similar posts, What Women Do That Men Don’t Even Know About and What Happened to the Man I Was, I write this post as someone who has discovered some facts of life that may be obvious to many people but, until my recent circumstances, I failed to notice!
I suppose being the only adult in the home has caused me to be more introspective than I used to be. I’m going to have to stop talking to myself so much!
Because now I think I am qualified to speak on the subject of “singleness” and “single parenting” after having been married for almost thirty years and being single for a year and four months!
Undoubtedly, there are people that could speak much more authoritatively on single parenting than I can.
Nevertheless, I will go ahead and provide my self-proclaimed expert opinion!
(This post is a sequel to my post entitled, What Women Do That Men Don’t Even Know About. If you haven’t read it already, you may want to read it first as it sets the context for this post.)
I’m not the man I used to be!
There’s probably a number of reasons for my failing masculinity, not the least of which is the fact that I’m just getting older.
But also that I’m being told what to do by a 3-year-old and a 4-year-old!
However, I’ve developed several new behaviors since starting this new adventure that worry me.
These may be signs of my dwindling manhood.